This was the first part of my Relief Society lesson last Sunday:
I had a non-Mormon friend, who works in the community say to me, "I love my Mormon friends. They feel so guilty. You can get them to do anything." Why is that, do you think? My thoughts on this:
Three things that make us feel guilty:
1. The scriptures. We have Justice Jesus and Joy Jesus. Justice Jesus is always threatening us with his two-edged swords (smiting) or burning us to stubble. The thing is he's talking about the wicked, but we never know for sure if that is us or not. Joy Jesus is our advocate to the father. Joy Jesus is about peace and gathering us to Him. Justice Jesus gives me the willies. Joy Jesus I can worship.
2. Repeated stories of "outliers." Take John Roe Moyle who walked 22 miles to work on the SL temple and walked back (Mondays and Fridays). If that isn't enough, he injured his leg and had to have it cut off. He made a leg out of wood with a leather strap that went over his shoulder and continued walking the 22 miles twice a week. Yes, a remarkable story.
And they've just made a film about him.
What is the message with these outlier stories? That we should be like him? Give us all a break, why don't you.
3. Pulpit bullies, who are unfortunately sometimes our leaders. Someone from the pulpit makes our goals for us, tells us what our expectations should be, and worst of all makes judgments that do not align with our own moral views. They hurt us rather than encourage us.
Then, I read part of Uchtdorff's last speech. "Mistakes of Imperfect People."
Then we went on to talk about how we could help people using the talents God gave us.